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THE 100 DAY SINGLE MOM CHALLENGE

WHEN YOU’RE READY TO STOP STRUGGLING….

The “100 Day Single Mom Challenge”  
is a 100 day Massive Action Plan that takes
you from where you are today to a life
bursting with independence and confidence!

Do you ever find yourself:

• Out of money at the end of the month?  Or week?  Or DAY?

• Getting no respect from your teenagers?

• Wondering where you’re going to live now that your income has been substantially reduced?

• “Losing it” with the kids for relatively minor offenses?

• Wondering if your life is as good as it’s going to get?!?

I answered YES to all of the above and then some!!!

Hi - My name is Linda Johnstone and I am a Single Mom Success Story… 
Unfortunately, it took me years to be able to say that: years of struggling and worrying and making painfully slow progress until I finally said “ENOUGH”!  I enrolled in a coaching program and was finally held accountable for making the changes that I needed to make to improve my life and the lives of my children.  My dream is now to help Single Moms turn their story into a successful one, without the years of trial and error that so many must go through on their own!

The life of a single Mom can be extremely stressful.  Even if you and your ex-husband are friendly and co-operative, you are still doing the work of two parents by yourself.  It’s exhausting and overwhelming at times.  Take a good look at your life and ask yourself: Is what I am doing producing the results that I desire?  If not, maybe it’s time for a change…. 

Think about it…  If you do nothing, what will your life be like next year?  In five years? Ten?  But if you make the decision to take action and change your life, the sky’s the limit! 

Every woman should have the opportunity to walk away from the end of her marriage eventually feeling strong, independent and extremely self sufficient.  This goal may take several months or even years, but when you get there, you will never have to rely on another person again for your basic survival – not your ex husband, your parents, your siblings, friends, co-workers, boss… you alone are in control of your future and your destiny.    Every woman deserves this and it is my intention to help as many women as I can achieve this worthwhile prize.  Unfortunately, for those of us who have laid awake at night wondering how we are going to pay the bills, feed the kids or put gas in the car, the dream of being self sufficient seems just that- a dream.  More than once, I have had to ask my 18 year old niece for money so I could pay the heating bill or the car payment.

I applied a very simple principle to my daily life as I rose from the ashes to where I am today.  I call it the “just one thing” rule and it goes like this…    When I had 4 kids under the age of 7, I learned a little trick to keep me sane when I couldn’t find the floor because of all the toys and cheerio’s and dirty socks.  If I picked up just one thing, just ONE stuffed animal, or ONE shoe, and I put that ONE thing away where it belonged, then I was making progress.  If I went through the whole room with the philosophy of JUST ONE THING, then before I knew it, the floor was bare, the room was clean and life was good.   If you don’t know where to start cleaning up the mess that is your life, and it seems impossible for you to ever live the life of your dreams, start with JUST ONE THING.  Before you know it, you will be making progress, your mess will be gone and yes, life will be good!

The “100 Day Single Mom Challenge” may very well be what you need to jump start your life after a separation or divorce – It is an action packed, on-line program that will hold you accountable for making the difficult changes and decisions that you may be avoiding, but must ultimately face.  Whether you are recently divorced, just contemplating a separation or a long time single Mom who is looking for something better, the “challenge” is your opportunity to turn yourself into a self reliant woman in control of your life AND your future.   You may not even want to even think about this right now, but someday you may meet Mr. Right again and this time it might be for real!  How great would you feel if you didn’t NEED a man for your survival, but could just enjoy your time together because you wanted to?  That is the goal of The 100 DAY SINGLE MOM CHALLENGE.  Here’s what the CHALLENGE gets you to do:

1. Make sure the basics are covered… the kids are fed and you have a roof over your heads etc. This sounds simple, but may get complicated based on your circumstances.  Almost always someone has to move when a marriage dissolves and who goes where and with whom takes some thought.  The Challenge will get you to take care of your immediate concerns and keep the kids from saying “not Mac and Cheese AGAAAIN!!!” or “I don’t WANNA go to Daddy’s apartment!!!!
2. Take a close look at where your head is at…  You may be angry, hurt, bewildered, furious or all of the above.  Maybe the decision to leave the marriage was yours and you are overwhelmed with guilt.  Every emotion known to man (and woman) may be sloshing around in your brain and you don’t know how to stop crying or laughing or yelling or staring at the wall – I was having a normal conversation with a soon to be divorcee the other day and all of a sudden she started screaming at her kids who were in the other room playing.  Yes indeed, divorce is tough on the emotions and the Challenge will help you sort them out.  Most importantly, you must give yourself permission to feel these horrible emotions so you can eventually move on.
3. Pay attention to the details…  You probably had no idea how much stuff you had until you tried to figure out who gets what.  And the paperwork you get from your lawyer could keep a paralegal busy for weeks… And speaking of lawyers, should you get a family lawyer, a mediator, a collaborative lawyer, or no lawyer at all?  Do you want to go for blood or do what’s best for the children?   Remember - what you decide in the coming months may affect your life for years to come, so think, think, think!
4. Plan for the children…  Having a plan for the children is of the utmost importance during the transition out of marriage. The statistics are downright frightening, but with a sound plan, you and your ex can rise above the dismal outlook and raise happy, well-adjusted children.  This challenge concentrates on the plans and discussions needed to work through child support and custody issues, while The 100 DAY SINGLE MOM EFFECTIVE PARENTING CHALLENGE goes into much greater details with strategies and tools that make single parenting more effective.
5. Show YOU the money….  What kind of income do you need to live the life to which you (and your children) are accustomed?  You might be in for a real shock when the court says he owes you X amount each month and you are responsible for the rest.   You can figure out a budget for your new reality and make sure you stick to it, based on YOUR circumstances and how YOU want to live.  What about child care and all the extra’s needed for raising kids?  What if you don’t make enough money (and really, who does?)  You can figure this out too – maybe a career change is in your future!
6. Find the work that you were born to do…  If you are working at your dream job and everything is perfect on the career front for you, go ahead and skip this section.  But for the 99.8% of the rest of you, read on… Perhaps you left a high paying job to raise your children.  Or maybe you had plans to return to school when your kids were older – or you had a job to supplement the family income, but it isn’t nearly enough to support you and the kids now that you are the bread winner.  Whatever your story, lets help you find your authentic vocation.  Something that will get you out of bed in the morning AND pay the bills!
7. Find your Home Sweet Home…  Even if you are lucky enough to remain in the family home following a divorce, it might be too financially draining for you to stay there.  Many women end up “house poor” and find themselves too strapped for cash to pay for the essentials in life.  If you think you may end up in this situation, maybe your best move would be to move!  But not so fast….  How’s your credit?  You wouldn’t believe what a divorce can do to a perfectly good credit score (speaking from experience, of course).  It’s possible that some work needs to be done to clean you up before you go house hunting.  And is your existing house ready to sell?  There are many ways to “stage “your house for a quick sale.  We’ll talk about this and more!
8. Pull it all together in a new you!  This will undoubtedly take some time since this is a major life transformation, but you will be amazed at how sunny the future looks when you realize how far you have come!  Addressing your problems in little bite sized portions makes the transition back to the single life much easier than ingesting the whole meal at once. Even if you are just getting started on the career of your dreams and you are still looking for the house of your dreams and your children are just slowly adapting to their new life, it’s all good!  Be patient, keep up the hard work and don’t give up until you wake up one morning and realize that you did it!  You CAN take care of yourself and your family and you don’t NEED anyone’s help to live a happy, productive life!  (But if that cute guy with the well behaved kids happened to look your way………..)

The introductory price for the entire challenge is only $49.95 for a full 100 days!